A woman in her late forties, named… Marie, stood at her kitchen sink washing dishes. She looks up and out the kitchen window and sees her husband, Charles, working hard in their backyard. Out of the corner of her eye she sees her mom walking to where her husband is working. Marie realizes that while she was not mean or unkind to her mother, she wasn’t exactly cheerful or welcoming when her mom came to talk to her. When her mom felt unwanted she went in search of the one person in her life that will almost always make time to talk with her.
You see, Marie’s husband is a wonderful caring man. Charles loves the Lord, his family, his church and the lost. Part of his family includes his mother-in-law who lives with them. How did she come to live with his family? Years ago, like 14 years ago, it was his idea to have his family live with his wife’s mother and father-in-law for a year to help them out financially; while his wife thought he was nuts she went along with his plan. After the year was up his family eagerly moved into their own place but it was short lived. His father-in-law passed away four months later.
His mother-in-law can be difficult to love and yet this God fearing man does just that… He loves her. Not perfectly but always with sincerity. Marie has so much to learn from her husband. Charles is being Jesus to someone who doesn’t really want to hear about Jesus. He is being light to someone who had a very dark childhood, suffered terrible abuse at the hands of people who should have loved and protected her and feels abandoned by those she once called her closest friends.
Marie wonders why it is so difficult for her to be the light to her own mother. She feels ashamed as she watches her husband make consistent efforts to love her mom and invest in her daily life. She has known for some time that she needs to make more of an effort and without God helping her she’ll never be able to do it on her own. Marie knows that the Scripture says to honor your mother and father but it really goes beyond honor doesn’t it? She can honor her without investing in her. She can honor her without being light to her. She can honor her without giving much thought to where her mom will spend eternity. But Marie, as a Christian, should be concerned about her mother’s eternity.
That goes back to relationship. Investing in her. Seeing her as valuable. Seeing her as a child of God.
I know, I know… I need to finish telling you about my trip… soon! But today is just a short post to share a few of my favorite finds during this week.
This post by Michelle Lesley is spot on! While her blog is geared towards women this post is necessary for all Christians to read. Let’s be weird together… read the post and you’ll understand!
This podcast by Kevin Swanson was fascinating. This podcast was not what I expected it to be… you should take a listen! I know, for those of you that think Kevin is a little… um… out there, I find his podcasts a breath of fresh air. Someone bold enough to speak the truth. The world has enough wish washy Christians… we need more believers to stand up for Gods Word!
I was at a birthday party not too long ago and they served a white chocolate raspberry bundt cake that was truly awe inspiring! Phil found this copy cat recipe. I haven’t tried it yet but perhaps this weekend. Then I’ll have to figure out how to make one gluten free for him! Enjoy!
That’s it for this week. I’ll try to finish sharing about my trip over the weekend.
Psalm 51:10 Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.
It’s hard to believe 2017 is now officially over. It was a busy year for our family… here is a quick run down of what our year looked like!
- Maga celebrated her 28th birthday on January 13th. She’s been 28 since… well a long time!
- Natasha turned 14 on March 2nd.
- Katherine turned 3 on March 6th.
- Uncle Andy turned… I think 40 on March 13th.
- Phil successfully finished his 1st full year of self employment on April 1st… no joke!
- We celebrated Christ is risen on April 16th with lots of family at our house.
- I turned 46 on May 11th.
- Mikayla turned 12 on May 22nd.
- Phil turned 48 on June 9th.
- Natasha and Mikayla sold their Busy Bees Creations at the CHEC conference in June.
- Alex turned 9 on August 4th.
- Gaylene joined Keller Williams DTC.
- We went camping to our favorite spot at the end of August.
- Jonathan turned 7 on September 30th.
- Phil and I celebrated 17 years of marriage on November 16th. Have I mentioned that I’m the luckiest gal on the planet? Thank you Lord for blessing me with an amazing husband!
- We celebrated Thanksgiving at home then joined the Buttons for dessert and games at their house.
- Our dear Miss Renee celebrated her 35th birthday on December 6th.
- Our 4 oldest children performed in a piano recital. It was Jonathan’s first recital since starting lessons in August and he loved it!
- We celebrated Christmas at home then once again joined the Buttons and the Keels for dessert and games at the Button’s house.
I’m sure there are many events I missed… my apologies… I need to start writing this stuff down throughout the year!
This week we started a couple of our family’s Christmas traditions. Sunday marked the beginning of Advent and for the 2nd year in a row we are reading a story book about our Savior. Author Arnold Ytreeide has written four books for Advent. Last year we read Ishtar’s Odyssey and enjoyed the story so much that I bought Tabitha’s Travels. So far we are loving the story but we are only on the 3rd day of Advent so we have much adventure to read about!
The other tradition we have is each year I individually wrap Christmas books and keep them in a basket under our Christmas tree. We unwrap a book each night leading up to Christmas and read that book. This is our 3rd year doing this and the kids really look forward to this tradition. Jonathan got to unwrap the first book tonight and as usual he picked the Charlie Brown Christmas Story. Alex will get to pick the book to unwrap and read tomorrow night. My goal is to have 24 books that we get to unwrap each year starting on December 1st. We only have 13 books this year but I try to add one or two books each year.
What are some of your family traditions?
Many years ago I had a close Christian friend tell me that her and her family (mom, dad, 2 sons) were looking for a new church and one of their goals was to join a church that did not have a youth group. Of course, this wasn’t their only requirement (doctrinally sound, etc were requirements) but it had become very important to her. Honestly, I thought she was nuts! Her boys were about to be pre-teen… or do they call them tweens these days… anyway, I was thinking her kids are going to need friends when they become the dreaded teenagers (this was back when I thought teenagers had to behave the way the world says teenager have to behave) and what better friends then to have as part of the youth group?
Fast forward a couple year later and we had moved across town and were going to a different church. I started paying attention to their youth group as my conversation with my friend was always in the back of my mind. As I watched our youth group (no, I didn’t have any kids of that age yet) it became glaringly obvious that our youth looked no different than the youth of the world. They dressed the same, they talked the same, they had the same attitude. We, as Christians, are called to be set apart.
The church was having a potluck one day after the service. As I was standing in line to get my kids their plates of food I overheard a conversation between our youth minister and a 16 year old girl who were standing right in front of me. As I listened to their discussion I was, quite frankly, appalled by what I heard and envisioned Natasha having this same conversation in a few years. Instead of the youth minister kindly but firmly pointing this girl to have this discussion with her parents he engaged her about boyfriends and how important they can be in a girls life, etc. I realize, to the world this is a completely normal conversation but to someone who desires, more then anything, to raise her children in the admonition of the Lord I was sickened. There are so many biblical teachings this youth minister could have said to this young girl but instead played into what the world has taught her.
Anyway, I came across the video below that explains better then I can why our family doesn’t attend a church with a youth group. The video is about 39 minutes long but SO worth it! He talks about how Sunday school and youth groups started here in America. Watch to the end when Voddie gives a simple message to fathers and another simple messages to pastors.
I have a problem… a problem with most women’s bible study groups and certainly retreats. I’ve been on 3 retreats and really only 1 was worth it and that was because I was with my best friend. The time spent with her made it worth plugging through the 2 day retreat.
However, I strongly dislike women’s retreats and many women’s bible studies. I’ve struggled to put into words why but this article really lays out a lot of my feelings. Mainly the part about all the emotion and shallowness of it all. I’m not lacking in compassion but I’m certainly not an overly emotional touchy-feely kind of gal either. The other retreats that I’ve been too consisted of most of the women crying about their life circumstance and weren’t truly studying God’s Word or even building each other up. I don’t understand the gather together and cry crowd but then again I’m more of a one on one kind of person.
I did attend a one day Refresh conference for ladies in February and I can honestly say I was refreshed! We were in our bibles often throughout the day and seeking the truth of Scripture.
I am part of a monthly book study group with a handful of wonderful women and I am blessed to sit at the feet of 2 or 3 wise women who have mentored me and given me encouragement specifically over the last 4 years. We are in our bible continually, praying for one another and helping hold each other accountable.
Like I mentioned this article really hit home for me. Take 5 minutes and give it a read. I agree with the article about just picking up the Bible and studying THE BIBLE. You don’t need a canned book study to get to know our Lord and Savior.
2 Timothy 3:16 All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness.